A Love Letter to My 13-Year-Old Girl

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I wrote this some time ago for my daughter Ella who is now almost 15. This is a photo of us back then. 

Before you were born, I didn’t really know the true weight of love. I didn’t understand that it is like the universe with definite mass, constantly expanding into spaces unknown. My heart has stayed the same, contained and beating in the same body, but the love inside my heart is like the universe, constantly expanding and gaining density. When I became a mother, my heart learned how to hold the enormous, gorgeous weight of love.

Love is holding you in the first few seconds of your life, crying tears that had too many reasons. Love is wrestling with exhaustion and the visceral need to soothe you in the middle of the night. It is stroking your hair as we whisper together in your bed before you go to sleep. I know these quiet moments will not last. In the morning, you’ll stomp and roll your eyes because you can’t find your favorite Free People T-shirt. Continue reading “A Love Letter to My 13-Year-Old Girl”

Flutterby 9 – The Gratitude Edition

A collection of what’s winged its way across my path and got me thinking, grinning and gearing up. In honor of Thanksgiving, this week’s roundup is all about gratitude. 

IMG_4588The 12 Things I’m Most Thankful For As a Mother by Darcy R. Shapiro: Wine, Google, good friends, good bras? Totally.

The Science of Happiness – A Gratitude Experiment by SoulPancake: This is so cool! Watch as people’s happiness increase when they get a chance to express their gratitude to an important person in their life. Continue reading “Flutterby 9 – The Gratitude Edition”

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A collection of what’s winged its way across my path and got me thinking, grinning and gearing up. 

7812f7b9de1f1de7c6719dd7ffba2978Time Cools All Jets: Emotions tend to flash hot in my household and this canvas cutout by Jim Marble might just help us all cool off. I ordered one for the kitchen wall.

What Matters in a Friendship: “I care that in the midst of the noise and clutter of our messy lives, that in the tiny moments we find to connect there is meaning, there are smiles even through tears, that we part feeling just a little bit stronger, a little more hopeful.” Yup. Continue reading “Flutterby 2”

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A collection of what’s winged its way across my path and got me thinking, grinning and gearing up. 

Inspired by Jill Salahub’s lovely Something Good feature, I’m launching a weekly roundup of the articles, videos, books and media that strike my fancy in a given week. It’s stuff that makes me smile, ponder, cheer and want to share.

Why Walking Helps Us Think: I used to think walking was simply a slow substitute for the heart-pumping workout I didn’t quite get to. Turns out it can make you a better writer.

An Invitation to Live, Really Live on Hands Free Mama: As a writer, I found this post by Rachel Macy Stafford at Hands Free Mama just beautiful: “My friends, there is something to be said for waking up with an urgency to finish what you started … to live like you might possibly perish today. There is something to be said for acknowledging that time is indeed limited…Procrastination doesn’t have a chance when a heart decides what it must do before it stops beating.” Continue reading “Flutterby 1”

The Best Mom in the World on Scary Mommy

logo-smVery excited to be on Scary Mommy with my take on what it means to be The Best Mom in the World. Bottom line: it’s all about being the best mom for your kids. And guess what? You are. Keep on keeping on you awesome moms!

Writing Around and a Great, Big, Juicy Thanks

Wow, what an incredible few days.

logo-smMy article 4 Truths About Our Post Baby Bodies ran on Scary Mommy and has 364K Facebook shares and counting. All I can say is thank you, thank you and thank you to everyone for your support of this piece. It’s amazing — but maybe not surprising — how much the topic of postpartum body image resonates with so many of us. I’m just so glad that I’m touching so many women and contributing to the conversation around definitions of strength, beauty and self-acceptance in a positive way.

Speaking of Scary Mommy, if you haven’t checked her out, you absolutely must! The awesome Jill Smokler is an expert curator of all things true, funny, confessional, quirky, messy and gorgeous about motherhood. I’m very grateful for the opportunity to be part of the Scary Mommy community.

kveller-logo…and yesterday, my first piece was published on Kveller.com! It’s about getting to know my middle girl, Ruby, while she’s off at sleep away camp for the first time. Cleaning out her room, I realized how much I missed her and I finally found time to truly appreciate the unique person she is. That doesn’t always happen on a day-to-day basis with three clamoring kids, one fuzzy, barking dog and, well, everything that comes with this crazy-busy, bouncing life. The chance to slow down, be present and engage is a rare gift, especially for someone like me who tends to become overwhelmed by the frenzy. See what good things come from cleaning out your kid’s room?!

Again, thank you all for reading and sharing and contributing to the conversation. There’s nothing better than connecting, both in real-life and virtually, as we navigate this grown-up life together.