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A collection of what’s winged its way across my path and got me thinking, grinning and gearing up.

imagesGeneration X Is Sick of Your Bullshit by Mat Honan: A tidy little diatribe from “…the generation that became the voice that set the tone for everything you love about the Net.” If you remember the elevator scene in Singles with Bridget Fonda and Matt Dillon, this one’s for you.

I Can’t Go For That by Jenny Lawson: This post by Jenny Lawson of The Bloggess pretty much sums up what I love so much about her: absolute weirdness mixed with just the right amount of relatable. This particular post also includes her weekly roundup “Shit I Did When I Wasn’t Here.” Continue reading

Hatred Will Not Hijack My Hope

Before I went to bed last night I noticed a single blip in my Facebook feed about a terrorist attack in Israel. The brief description was awful, unbelievable.

“Did you hear anything about a terrorist attack in Israel today?” I asked my almost-asleep husband.

“Hmm? No, nothing,” he replied, drifting off. I glanced down at my screen, but couldn’t bring myself to click on the link. I hoped it was a rumor, hearsay, a fantastical misunderstanding. I shut off my light and fell asleep. Continue reading

The Best Advice My Dad Ever Gave Me: Be Kind

My dad and Lilah.

My dad and Lilah.

My work is to remember my dad’s advice to me when I first started dating:

“Remember, it takes a boy a lot of courage to ask a girl out, so say yes if you can. Don’t lead him on, but say yes.”

I spent a good decade keeping this advice in mind, trying valiantly to give a guy a chance as long as he wasn’t creepy or dangerous. I went on a lot of dates with a lot of different people: tech nerds, start-up upstarts, sweet Jewish boys, sweet non-Jewish boys, driven finance guys who kept east coast bank hours, snobbish San Francisco culture vultures, club boys. Continue reading

Finding Compassion in the Ballet Studio Waiting Room

Lately I’ve been writing and talking a lot about choosing compassion over judgment when we see people having a hard time with their kids or parenting in ways we don’t agree with or that bother us in some way. I truly believe that offering kindness instead of turning away or criticizing is how we make each other stronger. Connection is like a beam of hope when we feel defeated by parenthood with its tsunami of tasks, stresses and emotions.

But what happens when compassion isn’t your first reaction? Continue reading

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A collection of what’s winged its way across my path and got me thinking, grinning and gearing up.

Up a tree.

Up a tree.

Start Looking by Jill Robbins: “I don’t run to the doctor over every ache and bump but I’m quick to climb the crazy tree with my good friend “what-if”. I’ll scale that tree with amazing speed, although it’s not too hard to talk me back down, especially if you have booze or chocolate.” That is so me, plus there’s some really good stuff here about appreciating what’s right in front of you.

The Identity Crisis of Motherhood by Meredith at Perfection Pending: Every mama can tell you about her days of doubt, her days of wondering “Does what I do matter?” Those of us who stay home with our kiddos often wonder what life would have been like had we pursued one or another of our dreams. Meredith turns the focus inward, giving us her insights into the small but beautiful world that defines who she is right now: Mom. Continue reading

“Target – It’s Where Life Happens”: My Interview on HuffPost Live

This week something amazing happened: my post To the Furious Mom In the Target Parking Lot went viral. As of now, it has 125K likes on the Huffington Post and 6.5K shares on Brain, Child where it first published. I also was interviewed on HuffPost Live along with the awesome Carin Kilby Clark who spoke about her piece 3 Ways I Regularly Invade My Teenager’s Privacy. You can watch the interview here (I’m on at about the 9 minute mark). Continue reading

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A collection of what’s winged its way across my path and got me thinking, grinning and gearing up.

Bruce Springsteen’s Reading List: 28 Favorite Books That Shaped His Mind and Music: I am a huge fan of The Boss so I loved this list of his favorite books and felt a particular thrill at seeing that we both hold dear a few titles in common like Love in the Time of Cholera and Leaves of Grass.

IMG_4475Why We’re Saying No to Extra-Curriculars by Lauren Knight: I’ve been the anti-extra-curricular mom for years, limiting my big girls to one or two activities at a time. This year, the 12-year-old crossed over into the world of after-school everything: soccer, voice lessons, tennis, bat mitzvah classes. This is a great reminder of the benefits of giving our kids unstructured time. Continue reading